Thursday, February 26, 2009

165分钟的感动 ~《THE CURIOUS CASE OF BENJAMIN BUTTON》

一直以来都很害怕看一些很文艺又沉闷的电影, 一开始还担心《THE CURIOUS CASE OF BENJAMIN BUTTON》也是这一类的文艺电影。后续打听一些已经看过这电影朋友的口风后,才姗姗来迟才去戏院观看这部电影。差不多3个小时的电影,我为Benjamin、Daisy和Benjamin的养母的一生为之动容,深深感动...

如果时钟可以倒着走,岁月可以颠倒,人真的可以返老还童......

如果我们出生的时候80岁,逐渐接近18岁人生一定更美好。在马克吐温奇想幻觉里充满人性对于生命的颠覆期许, 颠倒式的人生历程,最后带着婴孩纯净心灵消失,单纯而美好; 但他或许未料到, 这非人类亘久不变的生长规则,独特的外貌是众人无法接受的奇迹, 最令人心痛的是亲爱的人终将年华殆尽而死去...1918年第一次世界大战结束当晚, 刚出生便患衰老症的无名婴儿被父亲弃置养老院, 多年不育的养母把他取名Benjamin, 也注定其奇幻的人生旅程。 尽管Benjamin幼儿时外貌如老头子,他却未自怨自艾,反而为自己存活奇迹而喜悦, 这是其养母教导儿子面对人生的正面思考:
[Everybody feels different about themselves in one way or another, but we're all going the same way, just taking a different rules as he did, that's all.]

养老院的环境令Benjamin足以承受一生的路,历练丰富的长者,完成人生旅程,而后静静离开, 无论哪一种人,失智、病痛亦或平实健康过活, 终将回归原点,孤独消逝。
人生无常,生死有命,即便亲爱的人,我们注定会失去,不然怎么知道他们对我们有多重要。 [We're meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us?] 离开家乡,云游四海,并碰上珍珠港事件的零星冲突,随着失去工作伙伴, Benjamin深刻感受面对死亡的无能为力,你永远无法知道下一秒会发生什么事情,所以必须把握当前,珍惜所有。

得知生世的时刻,常人多是气愤、哭泣、离去, 在此太多早熟际遇的坚强性格,反而令人不舍。Benjamin将临死的父亲抱向港口长椅,面向海洋说,你可以像疯狗那样对周围一切愤愤不平,也可以用脏话咒骂你的命运, 但是最后你只能放手。 [You can be as mad as a mad dog at the way things went, you can swear and curse the fates, but when it comes to the end, you have to let go] 宽怒是父亲悔恨下的最终解答。

感情戏是这电影的灵魂,故事的一开始就是年迈的Daisy叫女儿把Benjamin的笔记念给她听,重温Benjamin的一生说起。 感情是Benjamin一生承受最大的抉择,他注定中年才能与Daisy重逢,共组家庭。 青春并未开启幸福大门,而后他将面对爱人年华殆尽而死去的痛楚,两人如线交错,然后越离越远。 终于在女儿一岁,Benjamin留下大笔财富,远远离去。万物皆无法永恒,爱是唯一彼此凝视却能化作永恒的信物,而命运残酷中止令人憧憬的未来。当中一段说了everthing happend with a reasons, Daisy遇到车祸如果没有这个如果也许她不会遇到车祸, 会发生的始终也逃不过,都是周围的互动因素所造成的。我们永远无法知道下一秒种会发生什么..无法掌握和预知......

1985年,Benjamin在记忆尚存下,记下对女儿的祷文,此外,这也是他一生的信念:

值得做的事情从不嫌晚,对我来说,从不嫌早。成为自己想成为的人,没有时间限制,想休息就休息下。你可以改变或保持现况,没有任何规划。你会成为怎样的人?我愿你会是最优秀的。 我希望你能理解事情有绝对观点,遇见保持不同观点与视野的人群。 我期望你能以自己的生活为荣,如果不是,我愿你能拥有重新开始的力量。 [For what it's worth, it's never too late or in my case too early. To be whoever you want to be, there's no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there're no rules to this thing. Will you make the best or the worst of they, I hope you make the best of thet. I hope you see things at this top. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view, I hope you live a life that you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.]

多年后,站在年老Daisy眼前的是发育期的青少年,渐渐的,越来越年幼,甚至忘了自己的名,只记得曾经拥有真切活过的记忆。这样的场景,是故事里最痛的悲哀,85岁的Benjamin在爱人受伤静静死去,像是新生婴孩,沉沉入梦。有时候我们就处在即将发生冲突的轨迹里,却浑然不知。无论是意外或储谋已久,对此,我们无能为力。[Sometimes we're on a collision course,and we just dont know it. Whether it's by accident or by design, there's not a thing we can do about it.]因为有些事情早已经注定。就像有些人就在河边出生长大,有些人被闪电击中七次,有些人对音乐有非凡的天赋,有些人士艺术家,有的人游泳,有些人懂得纽扣,有些人懂得莎士比亚,有些人是母亲,也有些人能够跳舞。
Benjamin的一生无怨无悔,却绝对经得起考验,任何稍从即逝的事务,在他识知里,哪怕只是短暂邂逅,傍晚日落云霞,只要曾当下掌握绽放,就是生命的美妙。

随着倒转时钟御下冲毁,Benjamin的奇妙旅程也宣告结束。时光无法回头,无论人为的如何强迫时钟的走动方向,我们依然止不住历史的齿轮,钟表师傅的愿望,在Benjamin身上实现,也未必是众人所能接受的奇迹。

Saturday, February 14, 2009

定位

每个人在自己和他人心中都有个位子:

在父母前我坐在最前的位子,同样的父母也坐在我最前面的位子,血浓于水,亲情怎么也化不开。

在职场上我一步一步走向钱面的位子,然而这个位子并不是最坚固的,会根据工作表现、天时地利人和而调动,自己在公司的定位,部门的角色和上司的位子也随而波动。

恋爱过程中,彼此从最不起眼的位子到最重要的位子,若经不起考验,位子也可能来个大风吹,最后分手离场, 从情人变仇人,一时之间情人的天堂位子掉入地狱为仇人。

在朋友圈子中没有固定的位子,爽爽去这个位子、不爽可以去另外一个位子,好的时候可以形影不离,闹翻了也无所谓。

找对位子,知道自己的定位,看清自己在他人的位子,要懂得对号入座这样才不会产生不必要的误会和尴尬。

Thursday, February 5, 2009

09年的第1次低潮

破屋更遭连夜雨、在最不顺利最不开心的时刻、不如意的事情会接二连三来、不要以为这样就能打倒我、我会一一克服与面对....

心情不好、情绪低落的时候、在部落里写写发泄出来让我感觉好一点, 配上喜欢的迪士高音乐已经陪我狂奔、跟着音乐呐喊、痛痛快快把所有不满委屈都喊出来......

I've got my sight set on you,
And I'm ready to aim,
I have a heart that will,
Never be tamed,
I knew you were something special
When you spoke my name,
Now I can't wait, to see you again...

I've got a way of knowing,
When something is right,
I feel like I must have known you,
In another life,
Cause I felt this deep connection,
When you looked in my eyes,
Now I can't wait to see you again,

The last time I freaked out,
I just kept looking down,
I st-st-stuttered when
You asked me what I'm thinkin' 'bout
Felt like I couldn't breathe
You asked what's wrong with me
My best friend Lesley said:
"Oh she's just being Miley!"

The next time we hang out,
I will redeem myself,
My heart can't rest till then,
Whoa! Whoa! I,
I can't wait to see you again,

I got this crazy feeling
Deep inside
When you called and asked to see me
Tomorrow night,
I'm not a mind reader,
But I'm reading the signs
That you can't wait to see me again

The last time I freaked out,
I just kept looking down,
I st-st-stuttered when
You asked me what I'm thinkin' 'bout
Felt like I couldn't breathe,
You asked what's wrong with me,
My best friend Lesley said:
"She's just being Miley!"

The next time we hang out,
I will redeem myself
My heart can't rest till then,
Whoa! Whoa! I,
I can't wait to see you again,

I've got my sight set on you,
And I'm ready to aim,

The last time I freaked out,
I just kept looking down,
I st-st-stuttered when
You asked me what I'm thinkin' 'bout
Felt like I couldn't breathe,
You asked what's wrong with me,
My best friend Lesley said:
"She's just being Miley"

The next time we hang out,
I will redeem myself
My heart can't rest till then,
Whoa! Whoa! I,
I can't wait to see you again,
Whoa! Whoa! I,
I can't wait to see you again.